http://completefragments.com/blog/2009/09/24/where-have-i-been/ Thoughts on business, design, jewellery, family, etc... Sun, 19 May 2013 17:38:44 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.5 http://completefragments.com/blog/2009/09/24/where-have-i-been/#comment-10350 Julia Wed, 04 Nov 2009 22:16:42 +0000 http://completefragments.com/blog/?p=48#comment-10350 Hi! I just popped over here after the comment you left on my blog. Thank you for letting me know you visited and that my thoughts touched you. It means alot. Your year has been so full of loss - it's the things nightmares are made of. I find it amazing that it's possible to still wake up every morning, get up and keep going...somehow. I'm so sorry that your mum passed away. I know you must feel like your world has come to a complete stop and marvel at the fact that others can keep moving forward. Don't they know that your mum isn't here anymore? I remember feeling that so deeply. I have one little piece of advice. Grieve now. Let it come. Don't lock it away to deal with when it's easier or a better time. Everyone around you would be expecting it and are there to help out (babysitting while you get counselling, giving you space, or a hug). Take it from me - when you're moody, pushing people away that you love and being a pain to live with in 5-10 years time, you're accountable for those behaviours. Noone would expect it could be unexpressed grief making it's way to the surface. Let yourself feel it - because if you push it away it will just stay with you raw and angry until it's released. In my case years and years down the track (I wish I'd got counselling at the time so I could heal in a healthy way). I wish you well on this journey. There will come a time when the hurt and anquish of her death will wash away and you'll just keep your mum's life close to you. She would want you living whole and happy - it does not dishonour her to be happy again. Go for it - you deserve it. Take care, Julia x Hi! I just popped over here after the comment you left on my blog. Thank you for letting me know you visited and that my thoughts touched you. It means alot. Your year has been so full of loss - it’s the things nightmares are made of. I find it amazing that it’s possible to still wake up every morning, get up and keep going…somehow. I’m so sorry that your mum passed away. I know you must feel like your world has come to a complete stop and marvel at the fact that others can keep moving forward. Don’t they know that your mum isn’t here anymore? I remember feeling that so deeply. I have one little piece of advice. Grieve now. Let it come. Don’t lock it away to deal with when it’s easier or a better time. Everyone around you would be expecting it and are there to help out (babysitting while you get counselling, giving you space, or a hug). Take it from me - when you’re moody, pushing people away that you love and being a pain to live with in 5-10 years time, you’re accountable for those behaviours. Noone would expect it could be unexpressed grief making it’s way to the surface. Let yourself feel it - because if you push it away it will just stay with you raw and angry until it’s released. In my case years and years down the track (I wish I’d got counselling at the time so I could heal in a healthy way). I wish you well on this journey. There will come a time when the hurt and anquish of her death will wash away and you’ll just keep your mum’s life close to you. She would want you living whole and happy - it does not dishonour her to be happy again. Go for it - you deserve it. Take care, Julia x

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